The Pick Me Culture: The Cost of Being Pickable 3 Remarkable Insights
How the Pick Me mindset stalls ambition, undermines identity, and reinforces systems of control Welcome back to
Validation. rebuild. Revolutionize.
Provocative Thinker. Questions Culture and Systems. Supporting Women in Rebuilding.
Lynn is the host of the Narcissistic Abuse Recovery Podcast—available on all major platforms—and an author who speaks boldly about the truths most people avoid. Her work cuts through the noise, offering women the language, insight, and validation needed to reclaim clarity, autonomy, and self-trust.
She’s also the creator of the Wake the Elephant YouTube channel and the author of two impactful books:
Overcoming the Devastation: How to Heal, Recover, and Take Your Life Back and Master Manipulators: Discover Covert Tactics Narcissists Devise to Manipulate, Deceive and Control.
Lynn’s platform doesn’t stop at personal healing—it deconstructs the cultural conditioning that taught women to tolerate disrespect, suppress their instincts, and question their worth. Her approach blends direct insight with a grounded commitment to helping women break cycles of emotional control and begin the work of rebuilding on their own terms.
This isn’t self-help. It’s system-breaking.
You’re not just healing you’re waking up.
When I first started learning about narcissistic abuse, I had no idea how vast the systems behind it really were so intertwined.
What started as a personal journey turned into something much bigger—an awakening to the cultural structures, gender dynamics, and psychological patterns that support control, manipulation, and disempowerment on a massive scale and it keeps on going.
Today, we’re talking about a topic that isn’t just personal—it’s structural. Widespread. And largely invisible to most women perhaps by design, but you decide.
Have you ever started to have a conversation with a narcissist, only to find out mid-sentence the conversation has been cut off, or they walk away, and they shut down the conversation entirely? If you have been in a relationship with a narcissist, you may have noticed, there are certain conversations that are not favored, and the narcissist may revert to stonewalling.
In this episode, we are going to explore why the narcissist shuts down conversations, their motivation for doing so, as we go deep into the diabolical psyche of the narcissist so we can gain understanding and clarity for our situation.
I’ve got 6 for you today plus a bonus. Let’s go!
Women, is it our time now?
How long have we been held back?
Things are changing and it’s time we address the elephant in the room! Put your seatbelt on for this article because there is a windfall coming, and has long been overdue.
Inside narcissistic families lies enough dysfunction that Hollywood movies would be able to write dramas on it for years to come, oh wait, they already do this!
In this article, we are going to talk about what happens after you (the scapegoat) stand up for yourself within the realm of a narcissistic extended family, have gone no contact with one (or more) individuals, and then have come to find out the rest of the family has ostracized you. What the heck happened? Learn More.
Have you ever felt the system was rigged against you… like no matter how hard you tried, something invisible kept you stuck?
What if avoiding emotions wasn’t your idea… but something men were carefully taught… so they’d stay disconnected from themselves… and from you?
What if financial literacy was intentionally kept from women… so even when love turned into harm, leaving felt impossible?
What if the pain you feel in relationships isn’t your fault… or theirs alone… but the result of a system built to keep everyone doubting themselves… and too afraid to break free? Read More…
Well, if you thought I hit the limit on sensitive topics, you will be in for a real treat with this article.
Today, we are going to talk about changes in weight after going through narcissistic abuse.
I speak and share about my personal story here…as I know some of you are going through these exact things. I find there is so little information on the interwebs about going through weight changes as it relates to narcissism. So, I’m your gal pal sharing my heart and experiences. Read More
Picture this… You’re in a relationship where someone takes care of everything for you. They handle the finances… make the big decisions… always know what’s best for you. On the surface… it looks like love. But something feels… off. You can’t quite put your finger on it… But you feel smaller… more dependent… less like yourself.
Maybe you’ve experienced this… or maybe you’ve witnessed it in someone you care about. That nagging feeling that something isn’t quite right… even when everything looks perfect from the outside. Read More…
Growing up with narcissistic parents can have long-lasting negative effects on a child’s development, self-esteem, and mental health. These parents often prioritize their own needs over those of their children, leading to emotional neglect, manipulation, and toxic family dynamics. Understanding the effects of narcissistic parenting is crucial for healing and breaking the cycle of trauma.
Children of narcissistic parents often experience emotional neglect and invalidation. Their feelings, needs, and achievements are frequently dismissed or overshadowed by the narcissistic parent’s constant focus on themselves.
In today’s world, while significant strides have been made toward gender equality, women still face various hidden barriers that can impede their access to opportunities and resources.
These obstacles can manifest in many forms—educational limitations, restricted career advancement, and disparities in financial literacy, to name a few. Understanding these barriers and knowing how to address them is crucial for empowering women to overcome challenges and reach their full potential. Read More…
Narcissistic Abuse Recovery Podcast (formerly the Moving Forward with Hope – Narcissistic Abuse Recovery Podcast) offers a thoughtful and authentic exploration of toxic relationships and the often-hidden dynamics of narcissistic abuse. We examine the complexities of narcissistic family systems—going no contact, the scapegoat and golden child roles, and the profound pain of ostracization—while providing pathways toward healing and self-discovery.
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Our work extends beyond personal relationships to explore how narcissism is woven into broader cultural systems, institutions, and structures like the patriarchy. By addressing gender roles, equality, and other often-overlooked topics, we aim to shed light on how these dynamics shape our lives and relationships. Available on all major podcast networks.
This podcast exists to discuss the systems that diminish, control, and silence. We focus on what’s been overlooked, question what’s been normalized, and create space for healing, clarity, and collective strength.
Since Episode 69, The Narcissistic Abuse Recovery Podcast has been fearlessly deconstructing the patriarchal systems that silence, shrink, and shame. We go beyond surface conversations—unraveling taboos, challenging outdated norms, and opening doors to the topics so often labeled “off-limits.” Each episode invites you into bold, nuanced dialogue that validates lived experiences and empowers collective truth-telling. If you’re ready to explore the deeper layers and follow the questions others won’t ask, you’re in the right place. Let’s go down the rabbit hole—together.
Patriarchy isn’t about individual men being inherently evil or women being helpless. It is a social system intentionally created and enforced by men over generations to secure and protect their dominance. From childhood, men were conditioned to believe this hierarchy was natural and right, just as women were conditioned to comply, self-silence, and even police themselves and one another. This mutual conditioning made patriarchy feel normal, leaving it unchallenged for centuries. It was not until women began resisting, speaking out, and demanding equality that many men were even forced to see patriarchy for what it is. And even then, many chose to defend it because questioning it meant risking the comfort of unearned power. Recognizing that men are both products and active carriers of patriarchy does not absolve them of responsibility. Instead, it highlights the urgent need for both men and women to unlearn these harmful scripts together and to build relationships and communities grounded in mutual respect and equality.
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How the Pick Me mindset stalls ambition, undermines identity, and reinforces systems of control Welcome back to
Unpacking the history, language, and societal pressure that shaped generations of women to believe their worth depends
For decades, women have been taught to be grateful for what they’re given — a roof, a ring, a man who “provides.” But that provision often comes with strings. Or ropes.
The financial dependency trap is one of the most powerful tools of control in toxic, dysfunctional, and narcissistic relationships. And it’s wildly effective. When you control the money, you control the options. You control the pace. You control how much food she can purchase at the grocery store. You control her options. You control her world.
If you’ve been in a relationship with a narcissist, you already know the emotional rollercoaster—the highs, lows, and exhausting unpredictability. But there’s often another layer of damage that’s more subtle yet equally devastating: financial abuse. Financial abuse is a manipulation tactic, carefully designed to strip away your independence, one dollar at a time.
Women, you have been lied to.
Before we get into the meat of this article, please be aware that you might spit out your gum, and then stare at the wall for a while after reading this article, because you may be in shock for a bit.
Someone has to say this.
Without further ado, let’s get to it…
Internalized Patriarchy: The Women are AT FAULT, too. Let’s Unpack It Today In our society, where we
Why Is Respect for Women Still So Hard for Some Men? A Real Conversation About Gender, Power,
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Why He Can’t Find the Dishwasher: 8+ How Patriarchy Fuels Men’s Resistance to Housework It’s Not About
How the Patriarchy Has Failed Men: Unpacking the Promises and Consequences From Emotional Repression to Broken Relationships
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