Episode 122: Sanitized Misogyny: How Narcissists Hide Abuse as Tradition
When sexism becomes invisible control disguised as biology and values
You’ve probably heard it a thousand times: that your emotions are “too much,” your ambition is “unfeminine,” or that it’s “natural” for you to sacrifice your needs. But what if those aren’t innocent observations about gender—what if they’re a sophisticated control tactic designed to keep you trapped and invisible?
In narcissistic families and relationships, abuse doesn’t always look like rage or obvious cruelty. Sometimes it looks like someone calmly explaining why your independence is selfish, why your career goals threaten the family, or why traditional roles are just “how things are.” They wrap sexism in the language of respect, biology, and timeless values. They make their control feel inevitable and your resistance feel unnatural.
This is what I call sanitized misogyny, and it’s one of the most insidious ways narcissists keep scapegoats trapped while maintaining their image as reasonable people.
• What if the “traditional values” being forced on you were never really about honoring anything—but about maintaining absolute control?
• How narcissists weaponize legitimate concepts like gender roles, biology, and cultural values to justify emotional abuse
• The double bind that makes you feel crazy: conform and disappear, or resist and be labeled as going against nature itself
• Why you’ve internalized their gendered criticisms as truth instead of recognizing them as manipulation tactics designed to keep you small
If you’ve ever been silenced with the claim that you’re “just being emotional,” dismissed because your goals weren’t “appropriate for a woman,” or told you’re ungrateful for questioning arrangements that benefit everyone but you—this episode will help you see the control hiding behind the respectability.
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