Let's Talk about Cursing, shall we?

I grew up as an evangelical Christian and after several events and what I believe were several eye-opening experiences in my life, decided to not return to the evangelical church or any church for that matter.

I stopped attending.

…and picked up cursing.

Not in that order necessarily, but in this article, we are going to talk about it.

Cursing is Not Allowed

I wasn’t allowed to curse growing up.

Not in the home
Not in the church.
Not under my breath.

So, I was a good little girl.

I did what I was told, but yet, was unsure why I was treated like I was the ‘bad one’ in the home I grew up in. I share more about being the family scapegoat and going no contact with some family in My Story, here and in other articles on this site.

Had Enough?

Then I had enough.

I lost trust in organized religion, and I no longer subscribed to fear-mongering or emotional manipulation.

I was done with it.

I saw through it, and in that sense, felt liberated to express how I felt through in new and exciting, yet liberating ways. Welcome to a new language called cursing.

Maybe it’s an act of subconscious rebellion in that I can freely do now what I wasn’t able to do for so many years.

Were you the Family Scapegoat?

A similar occurrence occurs with the scapegoat. When the scapegoat is overlooked, criticized, and treated as less than others over and over again by not only caretakers, they can begin to internalize how others treat them over and over again. They can take on self-sabotaging behaviors and may suffer from poor or improper self-esteem. Learn about the dynamics between the Scapegoat and the Golden child, why he relationship is strained, what the Scapegoat can do, why the scapegoat is disrespected (and worse), and even ostracized.

The Hobby of Cursing

Now, I’m still a novice at it, a hobby I am still learning to perfect (ha!), but I am an advocate for it for several reasons.

(1) Cursing can be beneficial as it may help to express how you feel toward something in new and exciting ways.

(2) It can release tension and stress in words that no other word or phrase can adequately do.

I have heard, that people who curse are more truthful, what do you think? Do you believe this to be true? Are people who curse more honest or even authentic as one article suggests?

Challenges in Beginning to Curse

Now, not everyone is a gifted cursor (is this a phrase?), but here are some obstacles one may encounter as they are learning this new hobby.

(1)There may be guilt at first or a feeling you did something wrong. This can stem from your upbringing like me being raised in the church.

(2) Your audience matters. It’s still not proper to swear or curse around children and in some environments. Just because we can do something, doesn’t mean we should. It’s wise to know when it’s okay, and know when it’s not.

(3) Some people may be offended. I read somewhere recently, that if someone isn’t offended then we are probably not doing it right, whatever it is.