Episode 130: Why Scapegoats Become People Pleasers | Narcissistic Abuse
The survival strategy that keeps you trapped—and how to recognize it
If you find yourself constantly saying ‘yes’ to everyone, apologizing for things that aren’t your fault, or walking on eggshells to avoid conflict, you’re not alone. This pattern didn’t develop by accident—it was forged in an environment designed to keep you blamed and silenced. In this episode, we explore the deep connection between scapegoating and people-pleasing behavior, and why survivors of narcissistic abuse often develop these exhausting patterns that seem impossible to break.
You’ll discover:
• Why your nervous system learned to read the room before you could even read—and what that hypervigilance is really protecting you from
• The shocking truth about why people-pleasing never actually works long-term with a narcissist, no matter how hard you try
• How the family system requires your self-abandonment to function, and what that means for your recovery
• The question that changes everything: whose emotions have you been managing, and at what cost to yourself?
This isn’t about shame or weakness—it’s about understanding that your survival strategies made perfect sense in an unsafe environment. But survival mode isn’t meant to be permanent, and you don’t have to stay trapped in patterns that were never meant to serve you. Listen in to understand why you became a people pleaser, and get clarity on what comes next in your healing journey.
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