ReDefining Self-Esteem: 8 Startling Reasons Why We Have Been Lied To
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In a world that thrives on conformity and societal norms, it’s no surprise that the concept of low self-esteem has been distorted and misused.
We’ve been conditioned to believe that not fitting into predefined molds automatically equates to having low self-esteem.
But let’s challenge this notion and have a little discussion around it.
The Standard Definition of Self-Esteem
Low self-esteem is not what you think it is.
It’s a term that has been weaponized to bring down those who dare to deviate from the expected norms and question the status quo.
In this article, we’ll debunk some of the myths surrounding low self-esteem and empower you to embrace your independent thought and unique identity.
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Societal Misconception
Society has a way of categorizing people based on their ability to conform to certain norms. If you don’t fit the mold, you’re often labeled…
But is it fair to assume that everyone who dares to be different lacks self-worth?
Absolutely not! The truth is, societal expectations can be suffocating, and it takes a strong individual to resist the pressure to conform.
Instead of accepting these labels, let’s redefine what it means to have low self-esteem.
Gaslighting and Conformity
The term “low self-esteem” has become a tool for gaslighting individuals who challenge the norms.
By labeling them as having low self-esteem, society attempts to diminish their unique perspectives and force them into compliance.
But remember, you have the power to define your own worth. Don’t let anyone invalidate your thoughts and feelings by branding them as mere products of low self-esteem.
Embrace your independent thought and see it as a testament to your strength and authenticity.
The Illusion of Compliance
The world thrives on compliance. From complying to rules of society to rules within an elementary classroom, to rules within a family structure, and more rules in a corporate environment. We are taught compliance. And we are punished in some manner if we deviate.
From an early age, we are conditioned to follow a predetermined path, conforming to societal expectations without question.
However, true fulfillment and self-confidence come from aligning with our own values and beliefs.
Don’t be swayed by the pressure to conform just for the sake of fitting in. Instead, nurture your independent thought and develop the courage to stand up for what you truly believe in.
It is through embracing your uniqueness that you’ll find genuine self-esteem.
Society may still hate you if you choose not to require society's validation. If you turn and walk your own path, society will not be pleased, because you show yourself to be a non-conformist and you no longer rely on external validation to feel you have merit.
ReDefining Self-Esteem
Let’s redefine low self-esteem as a misunderstood concept rather than a flaw.
Low self-esteem is not a reflection of your worth but rather a reflection of how society perceives those who don’t fit into predefined boxes.
It’s important to recognize that everyone has strengths and weaknesses, and no one should be judged solely based on their conformity to societal norms.
By acknowledging and appreciating your individuality, you can reclaim the narrative surrounding low self-esteem.
Note: Society may still hate you if you choose not to require society’s validation. If you turn and walk your own path, society will not be pleased, because you show yourself to be a non-conformist and you no longer rely on external validation to feel you have merit.
Embracing Authenticity
True self-esteem comes from embracing your authentic self.
It’s about recognizing your unique qualities, celebrating your accomplishments, and accepting your imperfections.
Instead of striving for an idealized version of yourself that fits societal standards, focus on personal growth and self-acceptance.
When you live in alignment with your true values and passions, you’ll find a sense of fulfillment that transcends society’s shallow judgments.
Low self-esteem is not a reflection of your worth but rather a reflection of how society perceives those who don't fit into predefined boxes.
Overcoming Comparison
One of the biggest challenges in developing healthy self-esteem is the pervasive culture of comparison.
Social media, in particular, has created a breeding ground for feelings of inadequacy as we constantly compare ourselves to carefully curated highlight reels of others.
Remember that comparison is the thief of joy and self-worth. Instead of measuring yourself against others, focus on your own progress, growth, and personal achievements.
Celebrate your own journey, and recognize that everyone has their own unique path to follow.
It Starts From Within (and society hates this)
Society will try to destroy your individuality. They want conformists. They don’t want you to “go within” and find your hearts and act in society in this method. They want your compliance to their mission.
This is why it is important to go within – because this is where your heart is, where the root of your being is, that society tries to take out.
It’s important to recognize that true self-esteem goes beyond external validation and societal expectations -it comes from you.
Building self-esteem is a journey that begins from within.
Instead of seeking approval from others, focus on fostering a deep sense of self-worth that stems from your own belief in your abilities and inherent value. This is where the money lies.
Low self-esteem is a term that has been distorted by societal norms and expectations.
Don’t allow yourself to be confined by society’s limited definition of worth.
Embrace your independent thought, challenge conformity, and redefine what self-esteem means to you.
Cultivate inner strength, celebrate your individuality, and let go of comparison and fear of failure.
In doing so, you’ll discover a newfound sense of self-worth and live a life that authentically reflects who you truly are. Remember, you are deserving of love, respect, and success, regardless of whether you fit into society’s molds or not.
Embrace your uniqueness, and let your self-esteem shine brightly.
We were gaslight with what society wanted us to believe self-esteem was and isn’t. We were told messages, and were given tools to try to have us adapt, but the real message is it comes from within AND society is not the measure of who has and who does not have self-esteem. Be your own judge.
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